We’ve consulted psychologists, relationship experts, and the people who actually date to bring you some recommendations for how you can learn to have the best possible romantic encounters—this summer and beyond.

A good romantic touchstone is one that shows the individual the way to a safe and engaging space for conversation. These can be both well-crafted and informal, whether that’s a restaurant or a library or bus ride. They can even be found in the people around you—so long as they’re willing to help you navigate the path of romance with an experienced and comfortable eye.

Ultimately, you want to develop a way of being with a person that opens up the space for vulnerability, honesty, and sincerity. As our relationship expert Julia Heiman points out, “dating is not a one-way street. So if you want to be in a relationship, you need to also be willing to be vulnerable.”

Whether it’s a one-time date or a series of dates that could lead to a long-term relationship, the more you can help someone who may be thinking about a potentially romantic relationship, the better. Even if you’re not interested in a romantic relationship with the person you’re meeting, the values and traits you bring to a potential relationship can be valuable. The more you share of yourself with someone, the better you are at helping them find who they need in a partner.

1. The Most Important Qualification for a Good Friend Is Genuine Interest

My boyfriend, Marc, was a pretty good friend to me when I was dating. He was always available and willing to help, while never pushing or trying to be charming. But one of the reasons I was able to become friends with him was because he never tried to impress me, and I was free to listen to him and be interested in what he had to say. In contrast, my older sister is both a good friend and a great lover. She is one of the most natural, effortless lovers I’ve ever met. But she rarely tries to flirt, nor does she expect to be flattered. I think this is because she’s always had a lot of other people to choose from, and thus has never been in a situation where she felt she needed to prove herself to be attractive. This left me thinking: What is it about good friends that helps them be loving romantic partners as well?

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The Internet Is Your Friend

When I started dating, I had zero experience in the dating world. I was in college, and thought online dating was for people with nothing better to do than trawl through strange personals, hoping to learn about the world while experiencing a little click-click-clicking. I felt like an awkward geek, having no clue what to say or do to put myself out there. It wasn’t until I started doing research on long-distance relationships (my ex and I had planned on moving in together once we graduated) that I got into the concept of dating online.

My first encounter with online dating was signing up for Match.com and, well, playing with my mouse for a long time until I finally looked at their website. There were a few lessons I learnt from this:

1) As a first date, you are going to be nervous. Don’t worry about what they are going to think of you, or how they will react to what you say. Instead, try to remember that they probably had the same thoughts about you. Try to anticipate what they are thinking and, if you have something funny to say, say it.

2) People live all over the world, but what you see when you look at photos doesn’t always tell the entire story. Do your research on them, find out how they act when they aren’t on photos, and do some interviews with family and friends before the big day.

3) Pictures are usually taken with a digital camera, not a phone camera.

4) Take a long time between photos. More importantly, don’t force them to take “the perfect photo.” Again, a digital camera will tell the entire story, so don’t needlessly force them to take another photo.

5) Online dating is the least intimidating of all the online dating services, because it gives you the opportunity to communicate with many people at once. Granted, some of them will probably be fake, but if you have nothing to hide, then there is no reason to be shy.

Start Out Nicely

A good first impression, or at least a decent photo, is of great importance. Go to a professional salon and get your hair and makeup done. The whole point of online dating is to appear as your best self. If you have a difficult time looking at yourself in the mirror, then pick up a digital camera, and, if you are the adventurous type, take some photographs of yourself.

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